Rebuttal to Chris Jeub’s Rebuttal to Lauren Sandler’s “Childfree Life”

I have been reading all of the responses to TIME Magazine’s “Childfree Life” cover story and recently came across one written by Chris Jeub, a father of 16 children. Rebuttal to Lauren Sandler’s “Childfree Life” Out of all of the reactions to this article, I think this one bothered me the most due to his gross misinterpretation of what the author was trying to say. Starting from the opening paragraph, Chris set the tone for the rest of the article and it just gets worse from there.

He begins with this bit of arrogance:

I’m a bit offended. TIME didn’t call me for a rebuttal. I have 16 children — and I’m a debate coach to boot — and would have loved the opportunity to rebut Lauren Sandler’s article “The Childfree Life.”

Do you really think so highly of yourself that you are offended when TIME magazine doesn’t give you a call? Why would TIME want a rebuttal from you when one is not warranted? The author is telling stories of people living happy lives without children. It is not an article weighing the pro’s and con’s of having children nor was it intended to be a debate. I wonder how many childfree couples Chris and his wife interviewed during their period of writing “extensively about the joys of more than one” child?
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Men’s Rights and the Childfree Life

This might will definitely turn into a long and somewhat off topic post, but it’s something I feel the need to talk about here and I promise tattoos are a part of it. I believe this will also lead to an expansion of topics I cover on this blog.

A few weeks ago I stumbled upon a website giving advice to women in their 30’s looking to get married. What lead me there was the discovery that one of the people commenting on the article was claiming that “…women that don’t want kids either cant or are lying.” My wife and I have decided not to have children, and I’m an active member of an online childfree (CF) community. I have spoken with and interacted with quite a few women who say they never had the desire for children and knew it even at an early age, so I wanted to set the record straight by telling this guy that his statement was blatantly false.

What followed was one of the longest, most ridiculous and entertaining debates I have ever participated in with topics ranging from having children, abortion, tattoos, atheism, childhood abuse, marriage, divorce, to the downfall of ancient Rome and society in general.
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Why Do We Really Get Tattoos?: A dimwitted theory by a fashion commentator

Warning: If you aren’t in the mood for a long-winded rant, you might want to skip this post. Being labelled as a member of a “sick and twisted cult” made it hard for me to hold back.

I ran across this article about a month ago and starting drafting a lengthy comment, but realized that it would quickly be lost and buried among the other 4000+ comments on the site, so I shelved it for a new blog post.

Simon Doonan might just give Lisa Khoury a run for her money when it comes to insulting tattoo articles. His latest opens with a brief story about a recent trip to Florida where he felt like the only person on the beach without tattoos. Rather than stating this in simple terms, he crafted the following statement:

I am the only personage on the beach whose epidermis is unadorned with tattoos. Everyone is inked up except moi.”

I’m not sure if he is going for humor here, but everything about this statement comes off as smug and condescending to me and sets the tone for the rest of the article. The use of the word personage alone was enough to give me pause, but he is obviously trying hard to sound sophisticated and witty. I guess I can forgive him for mistakenly thinking tattoo ink is applied to the epidermis, but the rest of the statement is extremely annoying. [Read more…]


Salesman, 22, claims Next forced him off shop floor into stock room because of his 80 tattoos

How many times do you have to be told that tattoos on the neck, face or hands WILL have a negative impact on your ability to find employment?

He said: ‘Things changed very quickly once I had the tattoos on my neck. They had words with me on several occasions and then said, “You need to wear make-up”.

He then goes on to describe his trouble finding a new job.

Despite having been to four interviews in the past month he says he has been shunned by employers due to his appearance.

He said: ‘When I started looking for jobs, I had a problem finding people that would take on tattooed people.

‘I then looked into setting up my own business so that I would be self-employed to save anyone judging me at job interviews.

I’m sorry, but the purpose of a job interview is to judge you in order to determine whether you are right for the job. If I walked into a job interview wearing a baseball cap, jeans and a t-shirt, no matter how qualified I was, I would not expect to be taken seriously. No matter how accepted tattoos become, there are still many people out there who will look at you and make assumptions about what type of person you are.

If your ink cannot be covered, you will eventually find yourself in a situation where it effects you in a negative way. I don’t care how wrong it is, how great of a person you are, and how much you cry discrimination. A business owner is well within their rights to enforce a dress code that they deem appropriate, which may include the banning of visible tattoos and/or piercings. This is the reality of being tattooed, period.

This story just reinforces how important it is to choose an appropriate location when planning your tattoo. As much as I cringe with the overuse of this statement, I can’t think of a more appropriate time to say, “THINK BEFORE YOU INK”.


Why do people get tattoos?

Tattoos are expensive, they are painful and they are permanent. Many people find them unattractive, or even repulsive, others see the beauty in them. If you get a tattoo, you will be judged by others because of that tattoo. You may be labelled a criminal, a thug, uneducated and immature and you most certainly have some underlying psychological issues that you are trying to compensate for. People think that tattoos are just a cry for attention, a rebellion against society, or a way to hide who we truly are. Some will say you get tattoos in order to be different, yet others will claim you are just trying to fit in with all of the other tattooed people.

In all honesty, all of those opinions are true, but at the same time couldn’t be more wrong. The truth is that some people do get their tattoos to rebel or be different and some tattooed people are in fact uneducated thugs and criminals. But that fact should not lead to the conclusion that this is the case for all people with tattoos. Unfortunately, some people can and will jump to those very conclusions.

I was recently involved in a rather lengthy debate, in the comments section of an article posted on NPR. Keep in mind the article was posted in the health section and was talking specifically about the dangers of tattoo ink. Ignorant comments about tattoos and tattooed people are completely irrelevant to the subject at hand, yet as I predicted, those are exactly the type of comments that began to flood the page. The following are just a few of those comments, highlighting some people who obviously know very little about tattoo culture. This is their twisted view on why people get tattoos.
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